My apologies for not posting sooner, I've been busy and tired.
My fatigue is SO much better than it was. I now take a nap maybe once a week and other than that I'm fine. This is a huge answer to prayer as I have mounting medical bills and I needed to find more work.
I am now officially working 4 jobs...sounds more intense than it is, but it does wear me out. I have a part time job doing online work. A Very part time job doing on site babysitting for events. I'm cleaning my mom's house during the week and I still have my full time job with Early Head Start.
My summer starts Friday, June 13th and I will have 6 weeks off of my main job. I will start my summer with a pre-op appointment, and then on the 18th, I will have surgery. They will be taking out my tonsils, fixing a deviated septum and taking out part of my palette. This will hopefully get rid of my sleep apnea and help with my continued fatigue. I am excited for this, but not at all looking forward to the recovery. It's going to hurt and there's a high risk of bleeding, so I will be on serious activity restriction for 2 weeks of my 6 week break...so much for hiking, swimming or taking my nephews to the zoo in June. But hopefully the recovery will go well and I can in July.
I still owe more than I make in a month in medical bills, and will only owe more with the surgery, but cleaning for my mom is a HUGE help (THANKS MOM) and I should be getting more hours with the babysitting company and there is a continued hope that we will get a cost of living raise at my full-time job in the fall. I'm not going to get out of this any time soon, but it's nice to finally feel like it's not burying me.
While I'm feeling better energy wise, I still have a long way to go. When I began treatment I was told I should be feeling better by June...but with money issues, I haven't been able to continue with my treatment, required diet or meds/supplements. I am hoping that I will have time this summer to prepare some foods and eat right. After I pay down my medical bills a bit more, I will be able to return for the meds and supplements I need to truly return to my old self.
It's hard to explain that while I have more energy, I'm not better yet. I still have horrible brain fog. I get over stimulated just going to the grocery store, and new places exhaust me. I have a hard time holding a conversation, and get lost driving in town (I've lived here almost my whole life and it's the town I've driven in the most). It's embarrassing and very frustrating. I still avoid social situations as much as possible because it's hard to concentrate and groups can be overstimulating too. In a lot of ways I'm an infant again, getting my senses and mind used to things again. I've had a few friends who are very understanding and being close to my family is a huge help, but it is isolating.
I'm looking forward to this summer and am hoping for an easy recovery from the surgery. My goal is to read some books again and to eat only the foods I'm supposed to. I'm also hoping to do some fun activities and attend barbecues each week. I really want to be back to me, and I really want to lose the 40lbs I've put on since all this health stuff began.
This season is really rough and I'm looking forward to being on the other side of it. It's nice to see the light at the end of the tunnel...but I'm more than anxious for the next leg of the journey to get me through it.
I will do my best to update monthly again. Not much else to report...or if they're is I can't remember it (I also miss being able to remember things...I used to have such a good memory).
Be praying for my recovery and for continued provision to cover bills and food, as this causes me a lot of stress and takes a lot of brain power each month to navigate. Be praying for my mind, that I would be able to focus, to remember and to have the strength and energy to spend time with friends. Be praying for my friends, that they would understand and be able to support me as I need.
Sunday, May 25, 2014
Monday, March 10, 2014
2014 thus far
I haven't posted this year for a few reasons...
I haven't really done anything exciting enough to post about and in honestly life is just not great and I have no motivation to write about it.
Since right before moving home, the financial surprises began and the hits have just kept coming. I now have no savings and owe more money in immediate bills due, than I make in one month (and those bills aren't even my usual monthly bills). I found 3 part time gigs to help with income, but they're inconsistent and don't pay much...and with the hits that I've been getting lately, they don't really make enough of a difference to be worth it.
I am really struggling with bitterness toward God. He knows how much I'm struggling and He owns the cattle on a thousand hills, and yet, here I sit in so much debt I will never be able to live independently. I am not saying that God needs to pay off my debt, buy me a house and a Mustang...that's the prosperity gospel and that's crap...but God is Lord Provider and He could prevent a few of these $1000 expenses that keep popping up. Just last week, my car cost me $850 and then today I came home to another unexpected medical bill.
I'm tired. Exhausted. Tired of trying to make some leeway, cause each time I get excited I'm on the right track, another blow comes flying at me. My credit card has been helpful for these hits that I no longer have savings for, but with more than a few thousand dollar hits, and interest compounding daily...I'm trapped.
So if you think about it, would you pray for encouragement and for a break...pray that no more unexpected hits would come my way and that one of my side gigs would become more regular and that I would be able to start making a dent int this debt.
Books: None new ones. Haven't cared to read.
Songs: None really stick out.
I haven't really done anything exciting enough to post about and in honestly life is just not great and I have no motivation to write about it.
Since right before moving home, the financial surprises began and the hits have just kept coming. I now have no savings and owe more money in immediate bills due, than I make in one month (and those bills aren't even my usual monthly bills). I found 3 part time gigs to help with income, but they're inconsistent and don't pay much...and with the hits that I've been getting lately, they don't really make enough of a difference to be worth it.
I am really struggling with bitterness toward God. He knows how much I'm struggling and He owns the cattle on a thousand hills, and yet, here I sit in so much debt I will never be able to live independently. I am not saying that God needs to pay off my debt, buy me a house and a Mustang...that's the prosperity gospel and that's crap...but God is Lord Provider and He could prevent a few of these $1000 expenses that keep popping up. Just last week, my car cost me $850 and then today I came home to another unexpected medical bill.
I'm tired. Exhausted. Tired of trying to make some leeway, cause each time I get excited I'm on the right track, another blow comes flying at me. My credit card has been helpful for these hits that I no longer have savings for, but with more than a few thousand dollar hits, and interest compounding daily...I'm trapped.
So if you think about it, would you pray for encouragement and for a break...pray that no more unexpected hits would come my way and that one of my side gigs would become more regular and that I would be able to start making a dent int this debt.
Books: None new ones. Haven't cared to read.
Songs: None really stick out.
Wednesday, January 1, 2014
2013 Review
December went by quickly...I slept a lot. I went to more than a few doctor's appointments and everything reported back as normal. Blood tests, ultrasounds, etc. I was discouraged and watching money float away. But on Christmas Eve I went to see a nutritionist who said she is fairly certain I have Adrenal Fatigue (which happens when the body is in a serious stress mode for prolonged periods of time). This last year has been the worst year of my life for stress. EVER. Things were so bad in AZ I was getting acupuncture and 2 hr massages for sciatica at the age of 27 to no avail.
The nutritionist believes that my adrenal glands are shot and my body being in a safe environment once again has just crashed. Of course we are still waiting on test results, but at least having an idea of what is wrong is a relief. Unfortunately, adrenal fatigue will take months to heal (but can be healed, thank the Lord). So I can look forward to eating a very specific diet and taking certain supplements at specific times, resting a lot and learning how to be patient with myself.
I'm struggling with extreme fatigue and am overwhelmed by noises or sights easily. A "to do" list of more than 3 things makes me want to cry because I can no longer structure how to organize these things to get them done. My bank account is in the red and will be for the foreseeable future because I can't plan or think properly and before I fully realized the extent to that lack of ability, I bought a car.
I am blessed with a loving and supportive family to ease this pain however. My grandmother is letting me stay with her until April and then I will move back in with my parents.
There have been many years in my life I have been glad to see end, but this one by far takes the cake. I will be writing a post on my other blog (http://beautifullyprotected1.blogspot.com/) with more specifics on why, but I'll highlight a few here.
- My job at the rehab center became just pure stress and documentation. The higher ups were pushing me to quit and when I finally turned in my notice, they wouldn't let me back on the property. I am a VERY relational person and was unable to say good bye to anyone there and still to this day have nightmares about it and dream of the people I connected to.
- No matter what I tried, money disappeared. My car was a virtual money pit costing me over $3000 and I had used all my car savings fund last year. Health began declining, mental abilities began to as well and then medical bills started piling up and I took a job in CO paying almost half of what I was making in AZ. This has been the most disheartening. I try to be faithful with my money. I often ask God to just bless me with taking away all debt and with a superfluous income so I can bless friends and strangers alike and here I am stopping all giving and living with family to reduce cost and I'm still watching my credit card balance go up.
- And this is the one I'll elaborate on more in my other blog...but feelings of utter failure and desperation as I returned to CO, while also feeling relief and sincere joy. These last two years in AZ brought the strongest emotional pain I've lived through. And if the tests confirm suspicion, they are also what caused my illness.
With 2014 begun words do not describe how glad I am that 2013 is over. But unfortunately, the side effects and pains from last year linger and I will not be rid of them nor the reminder of the pain I've barely escaped from. There are just some things you want to be over, and done with and they just follow you and haunt you.
Everything has been effected and there is no where in my life I can go and not see repercussions. I can barely drive for 20 minutes without falling asleep at the wheel. I can't get out of bed to read my Bible, work out and honestly struggle to even get up to shower. I have social anxiety and struggle to go to church or Bible study because of it.
I'm not the me I used to be, and I have to lower my bars and learn to be gentle with myself as I fail to reach even the simplest mark. I am not used to sleeping all the time, to having social anxiety, to not being able to have a "to do" list with more than 3 items on it without panic. I am not used to not making budget and have to accept these things. I can set my bar to work out 1x/week and still need have grace on myself if I'm too tired to do even that. I can set my goal to read 1 book in 2 weeks and plan to have grace on myself because it's likely I won't get there. I can set my bar to be a 28 year old woman who lives with her parents, and have grace on myself because it's just where I'm at right now.
So 2013 is over, and I need to "Fall Forward" like this blog reminded me to (http://www.aholyexperience.com/2013/12/how-to-move-forward-into-the-new-year-when-you-feel-like-you-failed-the-last-year/) but it's hard. So if you're a praying person, please pray for me to be gentle on myself and for healing. And whether you are or not, be gentle with me.
Don't expect me to remember things, don't expect me to come over to your house if more than 2 people are going to be there. Don't expect me to serve or seek you out. Don't expect more than 2-3 hours of my time. Laugh with me. Send me silly quotes, pictures, letters. Encourage me from afar. I get overwhelmed easily. Accept that I might not be on a Bible study, that I might not be at church. Help me hold my bar low.
Anyway, welcome 2014. May this year be a turning point for good and upward momentum.
Books this month: I actually managed to read Kitty and the Midnight Hour and Divergent. Words cannot express how proud I am of myself to have gotten through 2 books this month (Winter break is a blessing).
Songs this month: Suffering Servant (see below link)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DabEEZdAz6c
The nutritionist believes that my adrenal glands are shot and my body being in a safe environment once again has just crashed. Of course we are still waiting on test results, but at least having an idea of what is wrong is a relief. Unfortunately, adrenal fatigue will take months to heal (but can be healed, thank the Lord). So I can look forward to eating a very specific diet and taking certain supplements at specific times, resting a lot and learning how to be patient with myself.
I'm struggling with extreme fatigue and am overwhelmed by noises or sights easily. A "to do" list of more than 3 things makes me want to cry because I can no longer structure how to organize these things to get them done. My bank account is in the red and will be for the foreseeable future because I can't plan or think properly and before I fully realized the extent to that lack of ability, I bought a car.
I am blessed with a loving and supportive family to ease this pain however. My grandmother is letting me stay with her until April and then I will move back in with my parents.
There have been many years in my life I have been glad to see end, but this one by far takes the cake. I will be writing a post on my other blog (http://beautifullyprotected1.blogspot.com/) with more specifics on why, but I'll highlight a few here.
- My job at the rehab center became just pure stress and documentation. The higher ups were pushing me to quit and when I finally turned in my notice, they wouldn't let me back on the property. I am a VERY relational person and was unable to say good bye to anyone there and still to this day have nightmares about it and dream of the people I connected to.
- No matter what I tried, money disappeared. My car was a virtual money pit costing me over $3000 and I had used all my car savings fund last year. Health began declining, mental abilities began to as well and then medical bills started piling up and I took a job in CO paying almost half of what I was making in AZ. This has been the most disheartening. I try to be faithful with my money. I often ask God to just bless me with taking away all debt and with a superfluous income so I can bless friends and strangers alike and here I am stopping all giving and living with family to reduce cost and I'm still watching my credit card balance go up.
- And this is the one I'll elaborate on more in my other blog...but feelings of utter failure and desperation as I returned to CO, while also feeling relief and sincere joy. These last two years in AZ brought the strongest emotional pain I've lived through. And if the tests confirm suspicion, they are also what caused my illness.
With 2014 begun words do not describe how glad I am that 2013 is over. But unfortunately, the side effects and pains from last year linger and I will not be rid of them nor the reminder of the pain I've barely escaped from. There are just some things you want to be over, and done with and they just follow you and haunt you.
Everything has been effected and there is no where in my life I can go and not see repercussions. I can barely drive for 20 minutes without falling asleep at the wheel. I can't get out of bed to read my Bible, work out and honestly struggle to even get up to shower. I have social anxiety and struggle to go to church or Bible study because of it.
I'm not the me I used to be, and I have to lower my bars and learn to be gentle with myself as I fail to reach even the simplest mark. I am not used to sleeping all the time, to having social anxiety, to not being able to have a "to do" list with more than 3 items on it without panic. I am not used to not making budget and have to accept these things. I can set my bar to work out 1x/week and still need have grace on myself if I'm too tired to do even that. I can set my goal to read 1 book in 2 weeks and plan to have grace on myself because it's likely I won't get there. I can set my bar to be a 28 year old woman who lives with her parents, and have grace on myself because it's just where I'm at right now.
So 2013 is over, and I need to "Fall Forward" like this blog reminded me to (http://www.aholyexperience.com/2013/12/how-to-move-forward-into-the-new-year-when-you-feel-like-you-failed-the-last-year/) but it's hard. So if you're a praying person, please pray for me to be gentle on myself and for healing. And whether you are or not, be gentle with me.
Don't expect me to remember things, don't expect me to come over to your house if more than 2 people are going to be there. Don't expect me to serve or seek you out. Don't expect more than 2-3 hours of my time. Laugh with me. Send me silly quotes, pictures, letters. Encourage me from afar. I get overwhelmed easily. Accept that I might not be on a Bible study, that I might not be at church. Help me hold my bar low.
Anyway, welcome 2014. May this year be a turning point for good and upward momentum.
Books this month: I actually managed to read Kitty and the Midnight Hour and Divergent. Words cannot express how proud I am of myself to have gotten through 2 books this month (Winter break is a blessing).
Songs this month: Suffering Servant (see below link)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DabEEZdAz6c
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